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Words Matter: How to Use the Language of Love to Create Powerful Change in Your Life and Our World

My Life coaching clients have so much figured out before they call me. They are typically kind, successful people – but they still yearn for something more out of life. Unlike self-study through self-help books or the Internet, I work collaboratively with my clients. Unlike their friends or family who may offer well-meaning advice, I am trained to help you notice your behavior and make the changes that will move you forward.

I listen carefully to the language clients use, help them become more aware of what they say – and how that could be helping or hurting. Here are a few examples:
CLIENT – “People are telling me that I’m not motivated. I’m always late. I’m not doing enough. I seem to lack confidence.”
ME – “What people? Why is it important what they say? What do you want to say with your life, and your actions?”
CLIENT – “I should work harder.” “I should clean up the clutter.” “I need to exercise more.” “I should talk to my mother more often.”
ME – “Should you do it, or do you want to do it? Should is a dead-end word. Want, will are proactive words.”
CLIENT – “I wish … (insert wish here).”
ME – “How can you make this wish a reality? What is the first step you can take? How important to you is this wish?”

These are just a few examples of how we can explore the language you use to tell your story in coaching. When thinking of your goals and your priorities, notice the words you use; listen to yourself and explore new language and mindsets.

The value of coaching is that it is more effective than listening to advice from others. You are the one to make discoveries and changes with my support. Loving words as you talk to yourself, about yourself and to others will energize you during your transition. 

Too often we use negative language to describe people, situations, jobs – practically everything in our lives. This bubbles over and impacts others. In our current cultural reality, there is a lot of negative language. When talking about politics, people cancel friendships, break off relationships, lose their temper, make cruel personal remarks and even take pride in their own intolerance. Where is this taking us? How can we turn the tide of negativity?

Some believe it’s too late for civility, let alone love. It is challenging to have political discussions without falling into critical language and the host of emotions that go with it. In this type of culture, rage becomes virtuous. Kindness is seen as collaboration with the vilified “other side.”

Several sociological studies have shown that rage, guilt, and shaming doesn’t work. It hurts those of us trying to make change in our personal lives. It does nothing to improve our societal situation. It does not encourage loving conversation.

The people who inspire me are those who have taken difficult things in their lives, things others might find insurmountable, and made them into their biggest power, their guiding mission; the spark that motivates them to make a change in the world for the better. That begins with language, getting the message out for themselves and to others. Those who speak with love and compassion show us who they are on the inside, not necessarily what they are observing on the outside.

For February, I encourage you to consider how you will frame the facts of your life, your story, your intentions and your place in our world. Through introspection and awareness, we can notice our language and choose words that will create feelings of excitement about what is possible. Each of us is in charge of our ourselves and how we live and connect to others. The words we use can take us from a negative space to a positive action.

Your life tends to follow the words out of your mouth.

Life Coaching for Your Language of Love

The value of coaching is that it is more effective than listening to advice from others. You are the one to make discoveries and changes with my support. Loving words as you talk to yourself, about yourself and to others will energize you during your transition. 

Contact Catharine Ecton for a complimentary, no-obligations life coaching consultation to discuss the possibilities. Or use the Appointment Scheduler and pick a time that works for you. I coach 90% of my clients over the phone, and my DC-based Life Coaching clients have the option of meeting with me in person.

 

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